You can use shims on the centre diff to remove excessive end float. There should be a tick of play fore/aft only.
In the front and rear diffs, there should be no lateral movement of the diffs and the mesh between the pinion and crown should free of backlash/play. Basically - as close as you can without it being tight.
This is adjusted either by placing shim/s to move the crown closer to the pinion, or by placing shims on the opposite side, moving the crown further away. The number of shims depends entirely on the amount of play there is to begin with, which sides the shims go depends entirely on the requirements of the mesh.
On race kits, they usually supply the shims, but leave it down to the user to decide where's best to place them.
Example here on a front diff suggests 4 shims, one on the right side, 3 on the left as a starting point.
RTRs are ready built, so it's a lottery. But the process for setting perfect mesh is exactly the same. In most (not all) cases, the bearings sizes are similar too.